From All or Nothing to Flexible Habits: Finding Balance that Lasts
Do you ever feel like you’re either all in—perfect workouts, perfect meals—or all out, doing nothing at all? That all-or-nothing cycle is exhausting, and it keeps so many women stuck.
Recently, I’ve shared why strength training is so important after 40. But here’s the thing: even if you know what to do, the all-or-nothing mindset can sabotage your progress every single time. Let’s talk about how to break free—and what to do instead.
In this video I share:
● Why the All or Nothing Mindset Doesn’t Work
● The Secret to Lasting Progress
● Key Tips to Break the Old Mindset and Build Flexible Habits
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If you want support putting this into practice, check out my FREE 14-Day Healthy Habits Challenge
What’s In the Video?
Why All or Nothing Fails
The all-or-nothing approach feels motivating at first—you go all in with a strict plan, big goals, and lots of excitement. But it almost always leads to:
Burnout and guilt when life gets in the way.
Rigid plans that don’t fit real life with work, family, shifting hormones, and unpredictable energy.
A cycle of stopping and starting over, instead of building steady progress.
When life throws curveballs, all-or-nothing habits break.
The Secret: Flexible Habits
The alternative? Flexible habits.
Flexible habits bend instead of break. They give you options so you can keep moving forward even when life feels messy.
Progress is built on consistency, not perfection.
A few examples:
If you don’t have time for a full 45-minute workout, do 10 push-ups or bodyweight squats while you make your coffee.
If you can’t make it to the gym, take a quick walk around the block.
If meal prep doesn’t happen, focus on adding protein to your next meal instead of giving up altogether.
These small shifts keep the habit alive—and over time, that’s what creates lasting results.
Quick Tips for How to Build Flexible Habits
Want to start building flexible habits today? Here are 3 simple ways:
Start smaller than you think. Take that big plan and look at what from that plan you can take action on. Make it small.
Create a “minimum version” of your habit—something doable on your busiest days.
Focus on progress, not perfection. Every small win adds up.
Final Thoughts
Balance that lasts isn’t about doing more—it’s about building habits that fit your real life. That’s what leads to strength, health, and energy after 40.
If you want support putting this into practice, check out my free 14-Day Healthy Habits Challenge
You’ll get simple, doable strategies to build consistency—without the all-or-nothing pressure.
And remember: small steps, repeated often, lead to lasting strength.
